Digital Footprint

 

What is a digital footprint?

 Your digital footprint includes all of the information about your online activity including shopping habits, check-in locations, pictures, comments, posts,  web browsing history and any other information posted by you or others about you. 

Did you know?

  • Colleges look at your social media history.
  • Businesses look at your social media history when you apply for a job.
  • Anyone can easily steal your information and pictures to create a fake account.
  • Nothing is ever truly deleted from cyberspace.
  • Cyber bullying can be punishable by law.
  • Sending or receiving indecent pictures of yourself is considered child pornography by law  if you are under 18
 


These days, it's hard to avoid a large digital footprint.  So it's important to be sure that the things that you say online are always positive.  Even when you are sharing something privately between a few people, remember that it could end up being seen by many more.  IF there is anyone in the world who you wouldn't want to read something that you post, don't post it. 

Download this free self-assessment to evaluate the size of your digital footprint. 
FREE Self-Assessment


  
You can download the full lesson here:
 Social Media and Internet Safety Lesson




Friend or Frenemy


The line between friend and frenemy can be hard to clearly define.  Teens and tweens need to educate themselves on how to spot a toxic friendship and how to identify healthy relationships.
Without fail, my office is flooded every year with reports of mean girls and friendships gone wrong.  This behavior begins in elementary school and continues well into middle school.  I created a small group friendship lesson that educates girls on how to self assess their own behaviors, evaluate their friendships, and begin healing or moving away from some of those relationships.
Using a "friendship scale," girls begin to see that everyone can move back and forth along the spectrum of healthy and unhealthy behaviors.  The idea is to recognize that and move towards the healthy side.
Click to see full lesson: http://bit.ly/2gMP4GL

Once they see that friendship skills are on a continuum, they realize that they have room for improvement.  I encourage girls to work on their friendships before burning bridges with friends.  If an attempt is not made by the other friend, then it is time to move on and seek friends who are willing to put in the effort stay healthy and happy.  

Sample practice sheet from the "Friend or Frenemy" group counseling lesson on TPT.  


 Learning how to spot toxic relationships with friends is an important stepping stone of development. These are skills that will be used as they get older and begin to have romantic relationships.

Friendship Lessons: http://bit.ly/2mdrP82


Drama is draining.  Girls begin to realize that friendship doesn't have to be hard.  It should be easy and care-free, without fear of "messing up."

Click to see my "Friendship Quiz Show" from TPT 

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Let's Talk about Suicide


Nobody wants to talk about it.  Nobody thinks it will happen to their friend or family member.  Nobody thinks a ten year old would do it.  Nobody would ever suspect that their happy, amazingly funny friend has thought about it throughout their life and that humor has been their only way to survive.  Nobody wants to think that it is the third leading cause of death in our youth.

ONE in FIVE teenagers in the U.S. seriously considers suicide annually.  (CDC)

Unless you have experienced the dark side, the dark thoughts, or the feeling of complete and utter hopelessness, you might not ever consider how dangerous and dark the mind can become.



Suicide is a preventable killer.  Knowing the signs can and will save lives.  You just have to believe that it DOES happen and it CAN happen to people that you love who you would never suspect would do such a thing.

Did you know that most people that attempt suicide had told more than one person that they were going to do it, but those people didn't believe them, or didn't know what to do with the information?   Did you know that when someone decides to kill themselves, they may begin to seem happy again and that this is actually a very dangerous time period?  Let's talk about what to look for and the things that we can do to help, to save a life.

As a middle school counselor, I have seen my fair share of children with suicidal ideations.   Usually these students don't just show up in my office one day to let me know that they need help.  When a student is feeling this level of hopelessness, they really don't think help is possible.  Therefore, they often don't seek help.  Often, with their impulsive thinking, they come up with the only solution that they feel will offer relief, which is, sadly, suicide.  That is when PEERS become critical.  Their peers are the ones who are receiving these red flags and hearing the kinds of things that would indicate suicidal thoughts.   Our youth need to be trained to follow up with their friends and TAKE them to an adult for help, even at the risk of the friend getting mad at them.  Often the one thing that saves a life is that the friend was brave enough to tell an adult that actually went through with getting the resources needed to help the family.  I applaud every child who has ever stepped into my office and was brave enough to say "My friend may need help."  This statement is usually followed by, "I promised I wouldn't tell anyone, but I am scared he/she will do it if I don't do something."   These brave kids are my heroes.

WARNING SIGNS

HOPELESSNESS
"It's just not worth it anymore."  "Nothing seems to matter."  "Why are we even here?"  "Nobody really cares."

DISAPPEARING ACT STATEMENTS
"They won't have to worry about me for much longer."  "Maybe everybody would be better off without me."  "The world would be better off if I wasn't in it."

DEPRESSION
If someone is diagnosed with or has signs of depression, getting medical attention is crucial, because depression alone can cause suicidal thoughts.

MAKING FUNERAL PLANS
Telling friends what songs they would like to be played at their funeral.  Discussing caskets and flowers for their funeral.

SUDDEN CHANGE IN BEHAVIOR
A funny person becomes sullen.  An "A" student is suddenly failing classes.  An athlete stops going to practice.  They quit activities they once enjoyed.  They no longer hang out with friends.  A loud person becomes quiet.

GIVING THINGS AWAY
Giving away prized possessions and not caring about their things anymore.  Making sentimental gifts representing their friendship.  (out of the blue, not for a birthday or special occasion.)

SELF-CARE & HYGEINE
No longer concerned with looks or hygiene.  Not worrying about their looks as much as before.

SAYING GOODBYE
Writing letters to multiple friends telling them what they mean to them.  Becoming sentimental with friends and giving away tokens of appreciation.  Calling friends, old and new, just to say they care and how much they have meant to them.

PREVIOUS ATTEMPTS & SELF-HARM
Sometimes, but not always, self mutilation (in a variety of forms such as "cutting") can be a precursor to suicide.  It can be a way to "practice" for the real thing.  If somebody has attempted suicide in the past and failed, they are more likely to be successful the next time.  Never assume that it was a cry for attention.  Any cry for attention is concerning and should be addressed.  It's easy to want to say that somebody is just a "drama queen" but even still, this is a big red flag.  If they are begging for attention, they need it.

SUDDEN RECOVERY FROM A DEPRESSION
Once a person has decided to go through with suicide and have a well made plan, the sense of dread of life temporarily leaves.  They have found a peace with it and begin making rounds to tell everyone they love good-bye.

Other things to consider:

MEDICATION
I just wanted to add a note about anti-depressive medications.  While these have been proven to be helpful to many people, they can also have the opposite affect, especially the first couple of months.  Please watch your loved ones closely if they start on or change mood medications.

TWEENS, TEENS & ELDERLY
Tweens and Teens are especially vulnerable to suicide because of their impulsive thinking and the tendency to have faulty or distorted thinking patterns such as "catastrophic thinking" and "all or nothing" ways of looking at the world.
The elderly are at risk for a variety of reasons.  Loss of dignity and loss of multiple loved ones over the years can cause depression which is one of the leading causes of suicide.

I tell students that even if they just have a tiny suspicion, that nothing is too silly to report.  We have multiple ways at our school to report these types of concerns.  Our district has a "text-a-tip" phone number for students to make anonymous reports.  We also have a lock box that students can place notes in that only counselors have the keys to open.  I do a suicide awareness training early in the school year.  We get quite a few concerned students coming to the office immediately following our presentation.  Knowledge is power.  Knowledge SAVES lives.



If you want more information about suicide, please visit The Jason Foundation.  They have a 24 hour suicide hotline and helpful resources.

I wish I could say that I wasn't personally affected by suicide.  I hope for you that you never have to experience this type of loss.  One way to cope is to empower others to recognize the signs.

Concerned about someone or yourself?  

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More about The Jason Foundation:
Knowledge is power.  The Jason Foundation is dedicated to raising awareness of youth suicide.  Jason Flatt was a young man who told many friends that he was going to kill himself.  Tragically, nothing was done about it.  His family decided to start this non-profit organization in his memory. The Jason Flatt Act has now passed in 19 states, mandating educators to complete 2 hours of youth suicide awareness and prevention training each year in order to be able to be licensed to teach.  With a simple online request, they will send you free lesson plans, DVD’s with a powerful video of scenarios, powerpoint presentations on a CD, and cards with a 24 hour 1-800 number to hand out to all students after the lesson.   Free professional development resources for teachers is also provided.


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